What Can i do about my Mom when she gets in the way of our horse?

Well both me and my mom share our paint mare. My mom was a huge jumper when she was my age. Going all across the country to be in jumper show. But now she only rides western.I used to be western and reining.But then i fell in love with jumping. I've tought my horse how to jump all by myself. And i love it. And my moms supported me. Even when i ride like 3 times a week. And she rides once, every 2 weeks. But when it comes to going in a class. She gets almost mad. Saying im not ready to go around a course, and that i dont know how to control my horse. She'll say i need to go into plesure classes and other english classes without any jumps. Its like whats the point of that? And i've done courses before and our horse loves to jump. We've jumped no handed before and she was fine. But i dont know what to do. I've been thinking about getting a instructor instead of getting help from books and my mom. And i really want to go into a class to give our horse some experience. But i dont want my mom being like this! She makes me feel nervous now. Whenever we jump.So What should i do? Please help me.

RidesWithTheWind

I think riding in some flat classes is a fantastic idea, if you prove yourself in flat to your mum she might take you seriously and let you move on to what you really want to do. Good flat work makes the basis for good jump work.

Just because your horse loves to jump does not yet mean she is capable of easily completing a good round in the ring. Getting an instructor is also a really good idea. They will be able to help you and your horse, but also talk to your mum and let her know when you guys are ready to move forward. It will be easier for your mum to take what your instructor says on board and let you move forward.

Good luck I hope all goes well.

it sounds like your in a tough situation. you cant exactly stop seeing your mom (like you could if she was an instructor)...thats kind of rude how shes not even giving you a chance to get better. to me, shows are a chance to learn and advance your riding skills. have you tried to talk to her about it, and ask why she's so quick to discourage you? however there may also be some truth to what your saying. its always good to go back to the basics once in a while and perhaps go to a pleasure show and just do the flat classes. that way you can show your horse, and get him used to being in a show mindset, without having to worry about jumping and everything...have you ever shown in a h/j class? or ever gone to a pleasure show? maybe try going to a pleasure show and show her you CAN control your horse..then ask her if you can go to a h/j show. maybe it'll help her deal with whatever she's so worried about...good luck with everything! :]

It could be that your mom is either worried about your safety in a class situation involving jumping or she is afraid that you are going to show up her own past jumping exploits. Depending on how old you are, you might sit down with her over a cup of coffee (or whatever) and talk to her about this. Explain to her how serious you are about jumping in competition. Ask her what she means when she says that you can't control your horse. If you can draw her out about her fears, you may be able to allay them and gain her support. Maybe you could compromise by saying you will show the first part of the season in flat classes if she will then agree to support you by letting you go 'round in jump classes? Or perhaps just ask her if you can start out over cross rails? Don't be afraid to start out in "kiddy" classes if that will ultimately help your mom let go and let you ride in more experience appropriate classes. If, however, she is afraid that you will show up her own childhood exploits, you might have a harder time of it. Perhaps likening your own classes as you following in her own footsteps might help?
Good luck and just try to stay patient. They payoff will be jumping with a supportive mom, just give her a chance to work through her own issues! :)